Precious Baby Steps

The moment a baby’s cries are tamed with what the little bundle see’s through his/her eyes when crawling, instantly the mother will start to realize that it’s not very long before her son/daughter starts to take the first steps. That first baby steps are very precious to the mother because it involves a big decision whereby, she has to accept that the moment for her to let go her son/daughter has arrived. There’ll no longer be following the instructions but each instruction will be accompanied with a WHY and of course sometimes a little truth or dare game.

No matter how old we grow a mother does not forget that moment and she’ll keep those memories fresh especially when we fall in life. Our baby steps were never smooth where there was wobbling at first, then we crawled back and then we tried to stand again till a balance was achieved. The innocence gathered with the driven force within made us achieve success but we tend to take it lightly when we start to find and stand on our ground presently. Till now everyone remembers their childhood fondly and even wishes to take a few steps back just to go through that phase once again. However, with the increase of responsibilities which falls in accordance to our age we no longer value those baby steps that exist even now. Of course, it’s not like old times but it’s a modified version of courage + choice = fall/success and there might be redundancy as well. 

When we enter adulthood, it might seem to be a little intimidating especially when parents start to play their role in advising. Certain choices tend to be wrong to our parent's eyes and when it’s from the eyes of our peers it will be right. Going against our parents is a NO NO but let’s be realistic, have we ever not go against our parent’s will? Of course, when it involves life threatening choices or any other major decisions it’s a must to include them. Though sometimes we will still want to give it a try even though the support and encouragement might not be like expected there’ll always be the desire to achieve that. We start to dream big and when the dream starts to expand our confidence also tags along with the opposite effect (fear). The decision won’t be taken merrily but that one small step of try or will towards it is already a big success.

Besides that, baby steps define who you are because everyone’s steps differ in accordance to attitude and aptitude. The synchronization of both produces the diversity which defines you for you are. My friend is a crazy fan of cars and at the early stage of my friend’s tertiary education, an investment for a car was made. Almost most of the money was indulged in it due to the burning desire. The flame was not put out even by the parent’s disagreement and as a result, a trouble in standing for a short period but my friend had made an obligation; “NO troubling parents due to own financial constraints”. So, eventually started an entrepreneurial life with very minimal knowledge but the gradual baby steps did not impede the dream of being the best version and coping up with all the impossibilities. Well, even now my friend’s success still requires baby steps at each of phase of life.

Life will feel new with your own perspective when those baby steps are attempt and valued. A new start we hear people say regularly. A simple sentence which contains such deep meaning and task enforcement sometimes tend to lack the required force to get going. Baby steps are no longer valued highly at moments because we as adults want to take a huge leap forgetting that we are also an average human with the tendency to commit a mistake. Then, when we fall hard on the ground even the soil no longer feels soft to lay down anymore. Success takes a whole lot of late nights, early mornings and keeping up to it is not an easy talk. You wake up late the first day or miss your target for the time being feel proud for making it until the end of the day because some do not even make through the entire day and start to give up in midday sharing their misery with the entire nation in the middle of the road.

So, negative feelings will never subside even though you walk aimlessly in the middle of nowhere. Every night, before going to bed think about the baby which didn’t give up till he/she got to walk steadily. There was no fear or regret in those eyes when a step was missed but still went on by valuing each second and acknowledging each attempt. Whenever you fall next time, think yourself has the baby back then whom woke up and does not claim herself/himself as a failure but always a born champion that dissolves fear with those baby steps!

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Understanding sculptured to PERFECTION

Emotions are something that cannot be controlled no matter how much we try not to allow it to take control of us. Each people differ with their unique way of expressing the common emotions. The exclusive one would be those who deny expressing those natural emotions since many fail to look at the beauty of their way of being a normal human and this can only be done through UNDERSTANDING a person and with that comes accepting a person for who they are.

Understanding a person turns out to be a difficult task nowadays due to our own self-centered attitude. Try reducing the self a little and turn it into self-LESS. It’s never an easy task since since we will feel agitated due to the person’s attitude on the other side. We will be cramming our last minute assignments and tasks and at that moment some drama may seem to be interesting and at the same time inevitable but it will never upturn the frown on our face. Among the most difficult part of life is entertaining a down motivated or calming down an overly motivated person who debates their standing. So, feel that person and then you will automatically agree to be their ears despite the work or task because who knows you might be the one next in line to seek some advise or seek a companion to share your views.

Besides that, it’s better to be slapped with the truth than to be kissed with a lie. Accept that a person will have multi façades and it’s better to see all instead of seeing just the good side which pleases you to no end. Look at the dark side that governs them. See how anger causes their outburst to be a unique design or their tantrums to hit the dance floor in the most unexpected way but of course do not allow yourself to be turned into a punching bag. It’s never a necessary to apologize for being oneself, so learn their tempo and dance in accordance to it. You would be surprised by the amazing conclusion at the end of the conversation and rest assured that you will never regret. Let them feel comfortable to be exposed instead of locking in all their feelings and be dispatched as inhuman.

 As mentioned above humans are unique and in that population of people, there are those who disappear or mentally shut down everything due to facing extremity. They prefer to be on their own and it’ll turn out to be unfair to us whereby we will insist on approaching us and talk things out. However, some are not really ready or wish to do so because those struggles or tough trials can only be talked out but a proper solution can only be draft by oneself. When we learn to handle things on our own we will be able to go through many things without a tinge of intimidation. However, there’s this caring nature which reminds us of the promise to not quit on each other regardless of any situation. Somehow, those promises have to be turned down as a sign of respect for their choices because they are the ones who will be able to dictate their life.

Never take silence for granted because it is a beautiful language which does not require words but will be described in the most intuitive way. In silence, we might feel harmony or at the same time treacherous due to the bitter distractions. There are some who declare the silent time as their savior, turning away all connections and only attend to people that will cause their world turmoil. Other than that, everything will be side tracked and their genuine decision might cause some to get hurt in the name of ‘NOT NEEDED’ anymore mistaking for their temporary “NO-ENTRY”. To clarify things sometimes tough choices has to be made and honestly, they don’t deserve to be shut out but be welcomed for their comeback. Listen out before hastening the decision to call off the invitation to board the ship once again.

Regret and misleading information are the poison vessels of a ship and when it starts to leak there will be no turning back. Trust a person’s choices and accept their presence in this world as something worthy and to be treasured a lifelong. Some losses don’t matter but never let there be any losses that will matter your entire life. Let go the past and cut it out from persisting in the future because the reruns will be a hindrance for the formation of a peaceful life. Compile those imperfections and happily carry the baggage of memories for a lifetime.

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Think, Think, Think.

It’s impossible for us to ever give a break for our mind and it’s never a doubt that even right before bed we will have some ideas that will instil our routine the next day. Then there’s the fact which says we are not actually fully utilizing our brain because its capability is more than we think. “Conquer life first and then things will eventually fall in accordance.”, said my friend and it’s actually a true statement but to turn it into reality is never an easy task and most probably one has to disappear in the background thinking away.

When we were born, our eyes will be amazed and wander around questioning each movement, sound, and smell. The questioning mind keeps on developing with the new faces we are introduced to and of course, things gradually get interesting. Every handshake will bring meaningful memories making our mind to yearn for it to repeat again. Each ship we board conquers a little part of our mind and causes bittersweet distractions in between our daily routines. Some take it as a burden while some treasure it as the only memory that keeps the ship sailing and despite the worrying fact of the high possibility for the ship to sink we still go on. The weak connectivity promises hope and we keep on going thinking about the existing work and with the initial present, the upcoming future merges together giving us the very reason to think more and worry. So, in short, we can say that our thoughts are governed by our surrounding people and the long list of to-do list in life (GOALS).

When we sum up all of this, to be frank thinking becomes a burden. When was the last time we enjoyed thinking? The last time we think of fond memories might be like ages ago even though it was just 5 minutes ago. Our mind is a beautiful creation but we add a little too much of negativity such as worriness and intimidation and till the end of life we get married to them. Unpredictable things (FUTURE) may seem to be scary that is why many of us lay a huge plan in front us to ensure we won’t be misled. However, the mind is good at outsmarting us by presenting some unexpected twists and bombshells that no one can stop neither delay it temporarily. The fact is no matter how much we prepare we will never be ready for life’s trials and challenges and of course it’s hard to accept that fact. Everyone wants their sleepless nights and hard work to be paid off and when it doesn’t they switch off everything and even blow off the little light that wishes to shine some brightness in the dark.

Pooh bear use to think with a jar of honey or with Piglet sometimes in the cartoon and it’s a very cute thing to watch actually. Life is not a cartoon but we can make some amendments maybe by starting to put thinking has a procedure that does not govern your entire time of the day but makes you to equally give importance to the matters of the heart as well. It might be a small matter to you but not everyone is same like you. You say we don’t live to please anyone but putting a smile even on a random person won’t go wrong right? Let’s also make thinking self-less and when you do so a burden can turn into a surprising gift and the joy of thinking can be felt. The pleasure of thinking lies deep down those layers that hold hardship as the main pillar of strength. Allow that pillar of strength to be decorated with some flowers and well-wishes as well.

 

Think twice before you engage in something they say but sadly don’t let go precious things that don’t promise a return. Think for the better of others as well and exclude the word “SELF” sometimes and look at how the magic works. Handle life like an interesting story and throw in a lot of possibilities instead of fixing one like an answer for a mathematical or chemical equation. Let the result of thinking be a beautiful compilation of the best and worst instead of a complication that makes us wish for time to flow by fast. 

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A Treasure for a Lifetime

Nature or the environment which we live is a gift presented by the Almighty to be sustained for all three-time phases which are the past, present, and future. Any lack of care and love towards the environment at any time phase may cause severe damage and a collapse of the entire world. The impact towards the environment which consists of numerous of flora and fauna depicts the family union of multiple species leading a self-less harmonious life since their interaction with the humans has only increased the better living of humans.

However, it’s a shame to see humans betraying the living organisms that only cared about human’s welfare and reached to them when they were in trouble and in return our appreciation is shown in the form of urbanization.

There are restricted forest areas in the name of preservation and conservation among those tall skyscrapers and buildings that are built. Never once a thought was given to sustain the existing environment by nurturing both human and nature. Water which stands as a daily necessity is being polluted by irresponsible people who dump their waste into the nearby rivers creating a poison valley which then reaches the ocean and destroys the habitats of sea creatures. We are ignorant because of the water treatment stations that work hard in processing the water and

also we are able to import our seafood stock when the country’s supply is insufficient. Sea creatures are being found dead due to the consumption of plastics while some due to oil spills get landed on beaches with their carcasses as a proof of their tragic ending. As a long time effect, the hygiene level is being reduced and now direct water consumption leads to various ailments and even the fresh aquatic produces have to be examined twice to ensure their safety; the total opposite of the old days.

If we were to live the older generation time frame, when we walked on the road we would have smelled the fragrance of the flowers mixed with the cooking from the neighbourhood. Now, a mask has to be worn to avoid dust particles from giving us allergies and respiratory problems.

There are fewer trees and plants to filter the air. Dust clogs the refined pores of the leaves making it difficult for their natural filtering process to take place. Moreover, in the name of saving, unleaded oil usage is being reduced since many only think about the temporary satisfaction rather than the loss which they need to face pretty soon.

The initiation of bright flames as a way to speed the process of degradation is being opt and as a result, it doubles the temperature which then equals to the heat of the Sahara desert. Factories do not use a filter at their rooftop combustion which make even the life of the flying organisms to be at stake.  

Birds chirping and crickets playing at night has now died off and are replaced with rushing vehicles on the road. To have this people are rushing to the outskirts as an annual tour just to escape the busy city life. The banging of tools in building areas are deafening and this only covers construction areas. 

What about the honking sound as a result of human’s impatience? Lifting objects and slipping it away is an accident but when it’s the contrary then that does not have an antidote. Sleeping away the nights with plugged earphones and thick curtains covering the windows will be a solution in this civilized era but have we ever thought when was the last time we step out of the house and slept on the grass with the stars covering the skies?

If we are to do that now a car will be rushing pass us and to make it worst if it’s about enjoying the rain beforehand we will be bathed by the puddles of water. Human’s health is given a high priority in job areas and it is controlled to prevent the effect of noise pollution thus making its place to the last bench compare to the air and water pollution.

Therefore taking account of the matters mentioned above, it can be said that environmental pollution should not be a single handed mission by the authorities but it’s a collaboration of all standards of people to grasp the green surroundings equally as the fast booming urbanization. A tech-savvy nation might promise a high-income nation and diversified level of political standing but if we start to compensate for all those genuine hard works with the brown running water and dusty air the future will only behold an ever devastating world which humankind will fail to survive. So, let us all hold our hands for the world that combines the beauty of the past with all the best hope for the future and build the foundation which justifies both the development of the country and the certainty of a glorified green environment. 

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To be the BEST, be ready to face the TEST

We always curse life is unfair but somewhat we still survive through those trials and end up recalling those miseries with pride since that is what made us shine as who we are today. It’s always painful to go through challenges or tough trials because it will always intimidate us and pushes us to the edge. The uneasy feel will cause us to have a long period of sleepless nights and to top it off we will lose track of the normal routine due to distractions. However, those distractions are a choice where it depends on our mind to accept it and crumble or ignore it after a little mumble.

Tests are an ordinance where we think it as karma but it is actually a blessing in disguise. Blessings which will not instantly promise a happy ending but it will with belief and faith. When optimism is developed that is when the good vibes will protrude our immune system giving us the required immunity to fight those negative energy. This will ultimately give us the courage to face those hurdles and with every step being taken to overcome those boundaries it’s a step further to success by empowering courage in those indefinite moments. Besides that, it will test our potential and brings it out because when we quit being in the comfortable zone we will succeed in finding our inner strength which fails to be expressed at ordinary times. Our profound mind is capable of doing what we think but it can only be done with the collaboration of the mind and soul because when we put our heart to it that is where we will claim ourselves lucky even though we fail a million times.

 

Believe comes with trust and when we betray even a sorry won’t be enough. When we trust that we can do it we will. However, the difficult part will be when the negative thoughts give a red carpet entrance and force us to indulge in some betrayal. Beware of that invitation because as much as it seems tempting it just gives us a blank mind by suppressing the growing idea to handle the challenging battle. People will stab us on the back but you should be sure about yourself whereby nothing can drop the believe you carry for yourself. Moreover, do not doubt yourself nor underestimate yourself. It’s true that there’ll always be unwelcomed people who please themselves by questioning us in the name of curiosity with a motive to drop or make us doubtful of our own confidence level. Backing away will never make things come to an end because backing away will only declare us as quitters. So instead of that, take on a full force and let your hard work and persistence to deserve some credits.

The best of both worlds is essential because when any of it is being substituted by the better of the other world it automatically cuts off certain parts of life. Here the other world which is being mentioned is the child in you. Many don’t really value that child inside because they insist on portraying a matured standing. Though it’s an agreeable fact that it’s inappropriate to showcase our childish attitudes in public, it does not give the very reason to ignore its requests. Always keep it happy and automatically you will be revived despite the life tests that pull you down. Apart from that, along with acceptance let there be patience since it’s the most important component and virtue. Life is not a fast and furious race where it determines who’s the hare and tortoise but it’s about enjoying the gist. Remember that each of us has our own race to finish and before being entitled as the winner there’s going to be a lot of work and engagement with the worst of things you have ever imagined.

Therefore, enjoy life and think of the moments which lit a smile on your face whenever you feel like giving up. Even if there are a thousand reasons to give up just find one solid reason to keep going and it’s more than enough to keep moving forward. We are the driver of our journey so stir it in the right direction and never let go of the stirring wheel even if there are hurdles which make you stop half way. Where there's a will, there’s a way! 

ALL THE VERY BEST!

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