The most beautiful gift = SMILE

The hope of making someone smile is like a dream come true especially when you are given this sudden power to wipe out the lone tear which is ready to escape. In reality, it’s pretty hard to do that specifically when it comes to reaching out to millions of unknown souls out there. Even in that millions of people your friends or loved ones may be included because we are just absent-minded or just get carried away by moments which dissolves the good times we had in store.

We are revolving so much in accordance to the current pace that we just forget the term appreciation. We expect a person to be in our terms instead of enjoying watching them in their own terms. One of my mistakes too. My friend here loves to use the term “BOSS” which I strictly disagree without understanding the reason behind that. Actually, when I thought about it again, I realized it’s just a kind reminder from my friend to everyone out there that all of us are equal; there’s no superior or inferior as well as a daily alarm stating that “YOU ARE THE BOSS OF YOUR LIFE”. A cool term which rarely people take into consideration and give a thought about.

I also realized that a smile cannot be forced. When I recently, went to the city campus I noticed the variety of people one will meet when you enter a mega event. Some are just so freely passing around smiles and it just gets absorbed into the system making us return their favor. On the other hand, some curiousness and deep thoughts just cut the smile half way I guess. I met a cute and famous girl in the campus (all three campuses know her well) and ya her small size does not match up to her energy and confidence level. No one will believe that, but she did put through with her English essence and changed her style towards those she is comfortable with by blending in smoothly with a little coarseness in it. So, when I finally came face to face with her, I was still happy for getting a forced smile in return for my wide smile.

A smile is also a makeup which just enhances a dull face. We are the Agrotech students who have to spend most of our time in the field. So, basically we proudly get tanned and instead of taking pride in it, my friends just overrule that at times. People are supposed to be accepted based on their heart, not color and that tanned face will look simply stunning with just a smile! (Trust me guys!).

The most important thing about a smile is it is the mirror reflection of you. When you share or be the reason for someone to smile that is where you will get more in return. No expectation ya! Do it wholeheartedly and you will see life getting beautiful day by day. The vision of flipping the M; that is from “ME” to “WE” teaches a lot. My MUET sir use to say, “When you smile the whole world smiles with you but when you cry, you cry alone”. Who wants to be beside a negative person right? So, when you think about all of them out there at first it’ll be hard. Don’t give up and take a step forward each day. Share the sunshine in your pocket to them through words of encouragement, simple daily wishes, or 5-minute laughter over the phone and seriously you can never stop smiling the whole day.

Happiness lies within us and it radiates out through a smile. Just a smile does not cause a penny but it only cost your time and a heart full of love. Probably, you need to have a cup of coffee and solve an equation but when you do; the result is a dark sky full of colorful fireworks. A simple smile which comes uncharged should be given out on a daily basis without seeing a person’s status quo. Happiness comes uninvited; it does not judge the cover but seeks to include the best pages in life by putting up a smile on every page. So, let’s not wait for a special day but let’s gift everyone out there a smile each day.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL DAY OF HAPPINESS!

P.S- Let’s acknowledge this day by applying it throughout our life and let’s thank everyone who never fails to make us smile. :D

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Don't lick your wound ; CELEBRATE them!

It’s always good to have all the attention to ourselves when we are in pain. That love and care makes us very comfortable and sometimes makes us reluctant to move out from it. When you think you are sick repetitively, then even a doctor will not be able to diagnose us because at the end of the day seeing the negative in us even the apple runs away.

In life, we will never remain in the same place. There will be constant changes making us adapt to multiple possibilities. Among them for me was being selected to study in Kelantan. Year by year it does feel like home and I believe home is where the heart is and it can be anywhere away from your home back in your hometown as well. Recently I got my toe hurt in the campus where it made me difficult to walk. I knew the pain and thought of sharing what I’m going through with my friend. I woke up in the morning and told I got hurt. The one reply I got was “Good luck to you.”  The first time someone told me like that instead of questioning me how I got hurt. I was shocked but I thanked my friend and agreed that I do need a lot of luck to make it through the day. Somehow, I did manage the whole day with some help here and there.

I realized one thing from that good luck my friend sent me. We are responsible for our own actions even if it means falling and getting hurt. My friend or even my mom will not be coming all the way here to treat or look after me. I’m the one suppose to lick my own wounds.  When the good luck is seen in a rear view, it seems rude but look DEEP into that view. My friend has gone through double the pain where when I tell this kind of minor thing it seems like just a normal matter. I do not blame anyone because everyone has gone through pain in some part of their life. So, always compare yourself with the worst of others.

My friend’s sister is another fighter. She is a slow learner where my friend always gets worried about her sister fearing she’ll get left behind in school. But she isn’t one bit afraid. This is because, before bed one night she asked her sister,

“Dear, are you really doing ok in school? Tell, akka (big sister) I’ll help you.”

“No need ok. I know how to manage. Just teach me what I don’t know. That’s enough”, replied her sister.

Tough girl huh? Not an ounce of intimidation towards those who perform well. That little girl believes on her capability and never doubts her potential. She realizes that this is her road and she’s the one who has to steer the car. Her parents and elder sister can only point the direction. A flower which doesn’t feel afraid to wilt because she knows she will have the strength to bloom and become the most beautiful flower once again.

Sometimes the shortest reply or story will really stir the emotions within us. Unbelievable yet it will cause a major change in our life. We will learn to smile in pain and realize the power of optimism when we manage to beat the pain and come out of it. There is always a reason behind every pain and thanks to the people around me I realize that I have to look deep into those eyes which hold many stories. Look into the heart which still functions with an untended crack. The world will be full of hopes for every one of us and remember that only you are the one entitled to deal with life’s misery. Another’s hand might or might not be available but make sure your hand is ready to pull you through it.

NEVER GIVE UP AND BE PROUD OF THE PAIN YOU HAVE WENT THROUGH!

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When the tables are turned

Each of us is governed by our own world. We are so focused on our goals and always wish to strive for the best. These achievements are not done to name us as “attention seekers” but to prove our capability. When the hidden potentials are put to test, one it might lead us to what we want or lead us to a totally new world where we will have to pull through it. But somehow, we do find our place in this world and never wish to withdraw from it. We learn to face challenges which fall our way and among that would be scheduling some time for our loved ones.

Our loved ones can be anyone and in our busy schedule, it’s sometimes so hard to make time for them. That “NO TIME” will never come out that easily from our mouth because we worry confessing it will lead us to denial at the end. People lose the patience to understand the significance of silence because silence can mean many things. Most importantly, that silence will never let one forget another.

My friend here has a very busy schedule. Keeping oneself occupied is the essence of life since at that time one will start to explore many things and we will be able to identify our potential. So due to that rule, there will be a blue tick but no reply or sometimes it will take a whole long time for the tick to turn blue. There will be good mornings but no good nights.  The most common question we ask “Have you eaten?” but sometimes it will be more than that. Getting engaged in a long conversation is a mere impossibility. Does that mean ignorance or maybe arrogant? Well, I don’t know what others might think. As for me, my friend is fulfilling a dream and a duty which requires dedication and cannot be delayed either postponed. In life, certain things need to be sacrificed and of course, it comes with a price.

Human has this tendency to pinpoint a person’s mistake and shoot continuously till the gun runs out of a bullet. Have we ever tried turning the tables, where we are in the same situation like those who run out of time to reply those messages? When everyone starts to give this stern looks or drops bad comments at “US” then we will understand the meaning of cruelty. I do understand that it hurts to feel less attention from our loved ones. But why think as such when in that silence there are many good intentions as well? One example which came to my mind was all the army’s wives out there. Husbands leave home without an exact date of returning home. Yet, the wife will lead a normal life during his absence some will give birth to a child while some will be raising kids on the other side. The absence makes the relationship grow stronger and makes the presence of love more prevalent.

Life will never turn out to be as we wish. Yes, we put our heart and effort but they will always be these gaps where no one can live up to. The easiest solution for this is a mutual understanding since that is when we learn to turn the tables and start thinking wisely. Let’s appreciate those busy people out there by making them feel complete and when we do trust me each day will be beautiful even with silence. Cherish the memories every day and when you’re with them after so long make sure each second counts and make the best of it.

SPECIALLY DEDICATED FOR THOSE BUSY PEOPLE OUT THERE! You are valued as well.

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The unique flowers

Flowers multiply the beauty of a place or garden. Each has their own identity where they will be different by the number of petals, type of leaf, type of root and so on. In particular, each flower has its own needs whereby the amount of water, fertilizer, and care will vary. Their needs are also determined in accordance with the environmental factor as well.

In real life, this flower represents a woman. The amount of water is the amount of trust and love the parents have for her. The dark days for women have come to an end and now they are treated equally. When she is nurtured with proper guidance her true nature will resemble her inner beauty. Next is the amount of fertilizer which represents her dreams and hopes. She may want to be a doctor, engineer or even jobs which are historically governed by men. Let her go and let her hopes soar high. In between the growth phase, there will be factors such as people scrutinizing her, talking behind her back, comment on her appearance and so on always ensuring her downfall. That is where society, family, and friends have to ensure she’s back on track, hold her and make sure to bring out the best from her. She needs care from her loved ones throughout the journey. At the same time, there will be pests which attack her and cause her life to be at stake. For example, those who cause sexual harassment, abuse or rape her. She will lose her entire life causing her to tear apart and that should not happen. So, pest control should be done where there should be eyes (men or even other female counterparts) on her not to feast or revenge on her but ensure her safety. The flower has a long way to go and before it wilts and undergoes renascence it will ensure something is left behind as a memory.

Being a woman is a noble duty. Especially in this world, women face many challenges and changes causing them to make sacrifices for another’s better days. A family’s well being falls on a woman’s shoulder. They get married and they have to take additional tasks where cooking, cleaning, taking care of children will fall into the list. But she does not complain. In between her newly married life and duties she conceives and will have many doubts on herself. “I’m fat. I’m outgrowing my clothes. I’m no longer attractive. I have swollen ankles.” She just dances to the hormones which she herself loses control. That is after being officially declared as a wife. How about when she’sin her teens and early adulthood? Her curly hair might not favor her and wearing spectacles might make her feel that she looks nerdy. She will try to give her best “SELFIE’ post with her pimpled face but then gives up. Today morning my junior girl said,

“I don’t look nice when I snap a “SELFIE” on my phone.”

I said, “If everything is perfect then we will never value imperfection. It’s not important being beautiful in a picture but it’s much more valuable when it’s in reality.” She smiled in agreement.

The woman then grows old. An entire world map can be seen on her face. But she puts up her best for her grandchildren. Her journey is endless, where there’s no substitute for her place she just gradually upgrades herself by going through different phases and subsequently places her name in history. She might not be the next Mother Teresa but she will leave the world by identifying who she was and leaves a mark in her loved one's heart. 

For all of this to become a reality, she will need a whole lot of moral support and love. It is true that women nowadays are very much independent where they can make a living equivalent to their male counterpart or even higher but they too are humans. They too need some tender loving care (TLC). Therefore, not only let women have a break on Sunday but always appreciate her presence and believe that there is never a flawless girl or woman in this world. The flaws made her a better person and each of them deserve a chance to live a better life. Do not underestimate her capability or judgment because when she puts her heart to something she will eventually rule the WORLD!

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMAN’S DAY to all women out there!

P.S- Guys, if you are to read this please do not get offended. It's just a special dedication for the women on their special day. Thank you. 😇

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Don't be the reason behind someones tears

“Don’t cry there. All will be fine.”

Easier said than done actually and in reality, girls tend to do a lot than guys. Well, guys do in discrete too but it’s just maybe they are maintaining their image so-called “STRONG GUY”. But sometimes, in reality, they too are weak and delicate like girls. Everyone have their weak points and never use it to revenge them back because it’s the biggest mistake and it can never be forgiven.

There was recently a topic on radio, “Who are better in handling stress or pressure?”. I heard a guy saying that guys are stronger because they are used to dealing a lot of pressure. They have to handle large responsibilities and one of the most common ones would be being the head of the family. Thus, their tendency to break down is less since they are quite expert in dealing with stress because managing a family is never easy. It is agreeable however in today’s world I do believe girls are also capable of running a family as well as be ready to take over a position which they are entitled to. Well, regardless of the gender each of us has our good and bad times so never take it on anyone.

A relationship between the different genders which may turn out to be best friends, colleagues, husband and wife, love birds and so on can never go far when there’s no mutual understanding. My friend (Risa) and her best friend (Ruben) fight a whole lot and will be complaining some more but at the end of the day, they know they can count on each other. Words do get exchange in a playful manner but not due to anger or harshness. If it does the next minute they will be resolving the whole matter with a sorry. Yup, a simple sorry does wonder. My roommate said it is something more than friendship but not categorized under love. A sincere friendship, which when put to trials never gets shaken with a strong base.

A relationship between a husband and wife does not need explanation since we can see it through our parents. Even if it seems like World War 3 is going to take place any minute, it just subsides and everything will be back to normal. On the other hand, for lovebirds especially newly ones there must always be equality where there's no taking advantage of each other and treating one like rubbish. Words can be said easily but when it is engraved in the heart it never can be erased and when there’s redundancy it will not take long for someone to just walk away from the relationship. It just takes a few minutes to crumble a relationship. Psychologically crying sometimes is the best option to relax the tensed up nerves but it does not mean you have to cry for every single thing.

ONLY cry when needed not all time. Once you’re finished, pick up the broken pieces and continue the battle. You don’t want to end up being a quitter right? At the same time, in any circumstances which may be handling a project or working as a team, there will always be the existence of a “PEST”. Solve it professionally that is with proper communication. I know you will have the need to burst out and say some harsh words and walk away but the next day there will be this non-conducive environment which turns up due to our actions. The anger which then builds up can never reside and without everyone’s contribution, the work will never be completed.

When you make someone cry it also means putting their confidence level to test. They will feel insecure and it might tend to affect their overall performance. We might be ahead of them but remember they deserve an equal chance too. At times we have to make a move, to ensure things are back on track. But do not make it as a habit until the person will merely take advantage of every opportunity. Be wise with your choice of words and respect people’s feeling. Never attempt to make a furious person feel better until you really know how to work it out. Since some are self-dealers; some are advice seekers while some are damagers (ALERT ZONE since the volcano will erupt any minute!). Let’s not be the victim (punching-bag) and at the same time let’s not make a huge deal about their break down. Time heals everything and believe that better days are ahead!

A TRIBUTE TO ALL STRONG FIGHTERS OUT THERE.

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Growing with PAIN

Aren’t we all susceptible to pain? Some would say yes with a smile, some would say yes with a sigh, while others just cry out loud. Regardless of the different expression towards pain it is an unavoidable gift from God and it’s usual term through the famous quote “No Pain, No Gain”

Let’s say all of us are considered as a cancer patient. We are fighting through pain like them and sometimes it does end up between life and death.  We have to sacrifice certain things in life and sometimes it would even be temporary separations for long terms, no calling the one we love, forget that other humans exist and the list just goes on. But I’m very sure all of this will end up in a pleasant surprise or happily ever after. Trust me happily ever after do exist after a lot of trials, challenges, and tears.

My friend here is a fast sleeper where 10-11p.m. or sometimes earlier than that the flight would have taken off. I tried to hijack it many times but fail miserably. At times my friend confesses “I’m such a difficult person right?”. I asked, “Why you grow tired so fast?”. “I’m doing exercise to get the body I wish. I believe one have to carry oneself as that would increase our self-confidence. When there’s a target then there’s certain duration. To achieve it by that time, I have to work extra time that is by going on extra laps and taking care of my diet. The goal becomes the most important thing and all focus will be diverted there. I’ll be exhausted but at the end of the day a smile will be plastered when I see myself in the mirror and especially when I take a SELFIE.” Eventually, I had nothing to say since I believe each of us has our respective goals and no matter how big, small or insane it can be it must be supported. You are the only person who know how much it matters to you. In pain, there should never be negativity as well. My friend does not even tolerate an ounce. Pain driven with positivism will hinder all negativity from entering and gradually success will be attainable. 

On the other hand, in campus if I wonder that I’m the only one with so much of headache then what about my course mate who came out of her room for some fresh air after reading so many journals an entire day or someone who lost their loved one in a car accident on the other part of the world? How about a mother who is shouting with pain to bring her child into this world or a dog which got its head hit by a stone? Pain just surrounds us and when we feel each one our burden will immediately be reduced. Pain comes untold but leaves marks or scars which cannot be replaced nor deleted by any other reasons.

In addition to it, another thing which pain brings is you have to walk alone in order to be successful. It is not wrong to have a circle of good friends but those who really know you will stick by you all time. For some, the changes might be hard to accept so we end up going different ways and back to strangers again. Somehow, when you're alone you’ll start to enjoy your own company and find peace in it. You will wonder to yourself that you do possess the incredible power called “independent”. Being independent comes with a price that is the pain because somehow along that solo journey you wish things will turn back to normal. But it doesn’t when the minute you boarded the train which promises a better future and the pros and cons have been weighed. 

Broken hearts cannot be mended neither the rocky road will change. The void will be inevitable yet we survive by always putting our goals or missions first. My friend also did mention that whatever dream we have when thought often with optimism it will become a prayer. The prayer will become reality because when we think often about it, we will work hard for it. So, to wrap it up pain involves a lot of emotions and feelings. It is a mixture of optimism and pessimism though sometimes we don’t realize until someone injects it into our system.

Life is a  long journey people, so let's welcome pain and grow with it. PAIN IS THE BEST TEACHER!