The Unplanned Blueprint

Our arrival is the most important thing that will be written in our parent’s life diary. Nowadays, from the day a woman conceives till the day she gives birth, she would have planned out the future of the kid. A blueprint will be in her hand which sometimes results after consultation of both parties or else it will be her silent dream. Years ago, parents will be busy ensuring that there’ll be food on the plate that conceiving is a joyful news albeit there are other things to focus on that only after birth they will start to plan out.

It’s normal for a parent to dream big. As always they’ll start saying that my son/daughter will become a doctor or engineer or lawyer one day without even consulting the kid what is her/his passion. Kids love to imitate so when they are dressed up as the occupants mentioned just now it’ll be a nice picture to look at but practically we don’t know what the future holds. The daily repetition will lead to the kid to believe that this is reality and ends up saying to everyone making the parents beam with pride, but the main picture is just about to start.

Well, one day when my friend and I were talking we recalled our childhood times where we shared about the dreams that we perceived but it all turn out to be an unexpected twist. Initially, being a doctor was the common dream job and we laughed upon thinking how would it be if we turn out to be doctors. It’s not about proving what is told or our capability but it’s about being true to ourselves. My friend studied business and at that time the field was not even realized or explored much and an unrealistic future was a promise (opinions by majority). Yet, despite this fact, my friend went through all the hurdles and created a new beginning which promises endless opportunities. Different angles were explored till my friend became the “mastermind” that enlightens other individual’s journey and changed the perception of the upcoming generation. Every field has its own gist and when given the chance it should be grabbed and never resonate to quit with simple excuses. There’s light at the end of the tunnel and my friend has proven that an unplanned blueprint has its own worth.

Childhood dreams can be a reality but don’t force yourself and also don’t be a burden to the two souls who brought you into the world. Poverty is never a reason to put a full stop for education but it is a golden opportunity to unravel and test the unplanned blueprint. It’ll never go wrong when you put your heart to it, work hard and of course never forget to add a little fun time to make the process much more interesting and a memorable one which can inspire others to follow your footsteps. The main reason for the unplanned blueprint is actually to avoid replication or duplication because it’ll be boring to view a world surrounded with people from the same profession. Follow your dreams but make a reasonable change where it’ll be always be something to look up to.

Enforcement does not go far as well. The father or mother might be from the army, police force or are on call surgeons but it does not mean the child has to be the same. Believe in a child’s talent and potentials. They might not be hitting the top notch jobs but even with a normal one they can survive and succeed and be on par like the other professions out there. It’s a mistake to judge a job by seeing the exterior of the job before laying upon one's hands. However, when a child particularly shows interest on the same childhood dream then it’s not wrong to allow the child to follow his/her passion but let that come from his/her own willingness whereby as a reward of hard work utilize the scholarships and sponsorships. Strive amidst the thick clouds that intimidate you and find the place that belongs to you.

Therefore, an unplanned blueprint can be said as a blessing in disguise since at times the revelation of this plan will lead to bringing out the best in one. Bringing out the best in one can be helpful in building a society which depends on leaders who can guide them towards a proper direction. The formation of a holistic nation are in the hands of the young generation and their positive upbringing will ensure that they believe in themselves more and are able to bring the country to different heights. Moreover, parents too should give a chance for the unplanned blueprints to be put to action since that's how a child's destiny can be determined and they will be able to live the life they want without any regrets.

Never underestimate or judge a quiet lion/lioness; it may take you by surprise. As such surprise people by being who you are in a good way!

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It’s ONLY about NOW

Living a static life may be an option by many since there will not be a necessary to move away from the existing comfort zone. However, for some, it’s their cup of tea whether they like it or not since their job scope turns out to be as such. Going with the flow is another part but most importantly, accepting this fact comes with a price. One has to let go their dear things and that sometimes include turning off all connections to be focused on the job which they are assigned too. It may not fit all but in reality, when dedication and responsibility come in gadgets has to go somewhere that our hands can’t reach.

Our closest gadget is our smartphones and when we start to the type we will continue to do so without limits. So, even the idea of staying in touch with our loved ones on a daily basis will be at the edge. Besides that, the surrounding area of the different workplace may not have internet access all time and with that one will be dependent on mobile data. If the stay is going to be for a long period then there’ll be limited usage with most of the reference to the particular job that is assigned. Well, traveling is not only about accomplishing the mission but also acknowledging those surrounding you at that moment. Even though some will be acquainted till the end there are some who will exist for the temporary period and then they will step down giving way to others to have a chance.

Normally people take these temporary acquaintances for granted without realizing the value of people. Well, if I am to define what is work I would rather ask my friend to answer it. No cries and no pleas for a complete 8-hour sleep but only a prayer to be stronger and motivated every day. The work pulls out most of the leisure time yet, my friend was able to bond with those in that temporary duration. Some activities were organized and with that, an extraordinary team was formed, the work was done in a well-organized manner and at last, it was time to say goodbye. Of course, my friend’s family was updated about the whereabouts but other than that life just got interesting without the past nor future worries; only that moment was significant and in order to attain the full purpose and unravel the lessons behind it sacrifices were done. So, the result was a ton of miss calls and un-replied messages.

In the current situation, we always wish to uphold everyone equally yet sometimes it does not turn out to be as such. Negative things will enter live unannounced at that time; rejection, dejection, disappointment, neglect and so on. Many will feel deceived yet my friend here is able to put up a smile and treasure moments by letting go some to grab and create new ones. The willingness to empower the present moment and later retrieve the footsteps which were left behind is a hard decision but a wise one. We cannot consistently satisfy and make everyone happy but we can appreciate the presence of an individual at that moment so that there will be no regret. NOW is the best gift so let’s join hands together by making thoughts precious, memories countless and overcome boundaries to build a lifelong relationship.

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Rivals in the field, but in life, it's the most awaited arrival.

Yesterday was the most awaited day by many since two major teams hit the field and at last, we got to know who walked away with a victory smile and who walked away with a brave smile even though they have been defeated by their opponent. Football is no longer considered as a compulsory only for boys but it is now known as a unisexual game which builds with passion and interest to learn. It also connects many people as enemies or even as all-time supporters.

The fun part about football would be the ability for it to enable a person to express their deepest anger and sincerity. Well, my friend is a MU fan while I’m the Blues. Yesterday’s game was highlighted on my friend’s wall and with that, I kindly requested my friend to send the link so that I can view the game through online. Once, I mentioned the word “The Blues” angry emojis popped out on the chat box (next time I know how to make my friend angry 😁 ). It was the first time I saw that popping and the first thing which came to my mind was ‘interesting’ because I didn’t know until now that football is something serious to my friend and of course it’s sometimes good to have an opposite from me. Some tend to change team consistently instead of sticking to one even though when the team wins or loses. However, when you stick to one then you just claimed your place in the supporters chart because supporters are one of the consistent motivators which keep the players going.

The beauty of connecting with different people is also displayed through football whereby when there’s a big screen in the Mamak shop or roadside stalls all of us will be gathering there to engage in an exclusive discussion as well as commotion. This annual thing just puts that workload and busy schedule at the back of our mind temporarily. All attention will be diverted here and all eyes will only be on the ball. At the end of the game, life will be equivalent to a ball game where when you are reaching the goal post someone will come and push you. You will fall and hurt yourself badly and with that, you will be carried away on a stretcher. No cries, but the urge to stand and fight back will take over. Eventually, you will wake up in the morning with an hour of sleep thinking about all of these and enter the office feeling re-energized.

Involving oneself in football too is considered as a platform to release the day’s stress because I think when we talk about work everyone will have their equal share of a need to turn someone into their punching bag. Of course, no one wants to be gruesomely treated once the stress release button is accidentally turned on. It comes without a warning and bashes you up till you will never feel like talking to a “TURNED ON” person. So, with that plus point football is also being chosen by females as a way to avoid having a fierce lioness at home.  Besides that, football is also considered as a mind challenging game whereby practicing the techniques or moves to shoot an accurate goal can be practiced in real life too. The involvement of critical thinking is a complex theory and when that complexity gets intact with our mind the reflex will be outstanding.

Therefore, due to this good credits do not force yourself into football and at the same time for those who are passionate especially girls do not step back from learning the gist. For those who know how to play it’s a bonus but do not make use of it at all time since intellect should not be governed by a game or sport but at the same time do not allow an entire book to discourage you from playing. Balance everything and support all games mutually because each will have their own specialty. However, it cannot be denied that football will always remain close to the heart because even though we are separated geographically football overcomes all boundaries; it will always be the most awaited arrival.

In the name of FOOTBALL!

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The colors of life

When we arrive to this world we are unable to differentiate colors and whatever seen through our eyes are only in black and white. We sleep a whole lot to give way for our system to develop and then we slowly start to differentiate colors. There’s a long list of colors and all of those start with the basic colors which are red, yellow and blue.  Art lessons in school teach us how to mix the colors and produce new ones and with that, we color or construct pictures and bring them to life. Colors have the power to become the angels as well as the demons of our life.

In life, colors can be seen in a wide range especially through the people we meet in our daily life since people are the transporters who lead one to a different dimension. In those dimensions, we see multiple celebrations, emotions, transitions and so on. Those are the opportunities which allow us to get the colors to be expressed and be combined in our life. These colors then become one’s trademark or identification which highlights their existence and proves that their uniqueness belongs to this world too. Even though there are daily scenarios which connect humans, the most powerful connection can be seen through celebrations which define the beauty of each community. The diversity makes us closer when we start to be thankful and utilize social medias to express the love.

There are many categories of celebrations and mostly all fall annually. Sometimes the celebrations will fall on the same day and as they say the more the merrier. Celebrations bring us close to our loved ones because those who are far will fly just to spend time with family and loved ones on this special day. However, those unfortunates one who is stranded due to work or studies will end up being sad or on the contrary create a new memory which becomes an additional color to their palette of life.

Well, the good thing about being far is we will explore more and with that, there’ll be more bonding which sometimes makes us scream with frustration and maybe scream with excitement too. So with the motive bringing more colors to life, the Tamil Language Unit club in my campus will be hosting “Aghniyin varnam” annually which carries the meaning colors of fire with an aim to join all three campuses and also bring together other community of people to feel the colors of another community. Among the activities were Indian traditional games, Ponggal cooking competition and the grand finale was tossing colors on each other for fun which is known as “Holi”. The day ended with laughter and joyful memories even though all were reluctant to head back to their respective campuses.

So, celebrations are a blessing where not only we are able to reconnect but also open the door to new connections which establish new friendships. Most importantly, the colors which come along with these celebrations are a reminder of the need to add new colors from time to time so that when one day you look back at the pool of colors you have designed it’ll be a wonderful memory. Take time to paint a memory every day and let it be a collection that will turn out to be an inspiring story or even a story which you can look back when there’s a need to laugh. Embrace the distance and put up a smile knowing that you will be missed back there and at the same time believe there’s something ahead you waiting to be explored. 

Since there are multiple celebrations today, I’m wishing the very best for everyone and may the colors of life always bring the best and balance the angels and demons because boredom will strike even if it lacks either one. Enjoy the colors of life everyone!

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The untold love [Part 3]

She is the definition of beauty but love claimed her at an older age. It was a match made in heaven and agreed by both parents. She went up the stage and officially claimed her title as Mrs.  She turns back to her family and tears fell as a symbol of happiness as well as the separation which declares she’ll leave to a different home. Distance makes the heart grow fonder so with a smile she placed her right foot in her in-law's house. Ceremonies were carried out to ensure a bond till eternity was sealed. After some time of successfully putting up in her in-law's house and ensuring that she is entitled as the “responsible daughter-in-law”, she moved out with her husband to their own place. They were ready to have a family of their own.

He worked as an army and rarely there was time spent together. She endured her time by inculcating herself with kitchen skills and house work. One day, she discovered she was pregnant. The ecstasy of a to-be-mom hit her hard and it resembled through the tears of joy. The joy was shared with all but she knew she’s the one person who has to go through all the pains and complications that pregnancy brings. She often played a guessing game on her own.

“Is it a girl or boy?”

Sometimes it’ll be answered through a kick and most of the time after she uttered the word boy. Her bump grew bigger and at the same time, her husband was often stationed out of his existing zone. Sometimes her sister accompanied her to the doctor check-ups. She saw the little fingers and head in a blurred image through the scan. She was waiting to hold those little fingers and deep down wished that her husband was here replacing her sister. This waiting period will be ending in a few months and that’s where she started to wonder. Is she really ready to be a mother? How is she going to bring up her child? She was bombarded by many questions but she knew the answer to it. She promised she will never turn back and will embrace motherhood without even the slightest regret.

She went into delivery and as she thought it was a healthy baby boy. At last her husband was there. Both of them shared the joy and she couldn’t detach her eyes from the little champ. Yes, she was his little champ even though she doesn’t know what the future holds for him. She believed that his going to hit a goal until no one will be able to stop it. It’s not about expecting high but it’s about the optimistic hopes which she holds on for him. Her little champ’s cries were a melody to her and she wakes up in the middle of the night without any hesitation. Time didn’t allow her to carry and cuddle him at all times so she kept him in his heart and the memory of his infancy was in a piece of picture.

The little champ was a wild kid at times. He runs all over the place and cries back home to his mom with scratches on his leg and hands. His mom kisses the pain goodbye and with a tight hug tugs him in bed. He races with his cycle with his friends in the village. His mother sent him to school with the confidence that he will return with the knowledge he got from school. Instead, he will run back home with a smile since in a few hours he will be able to play with his friends. His mother allowed him to have things his way since she didn’t want him to get bored and lose interest in gaining a proper education. Among her woes came a surprise, she was pregnant for the second time and she was happy when her little champ was excited as well.

Day by day her time spent with her little champ increased and she rarely hoped for her husband’s presence. A father’s role will sometimes be substituted by her and she accepts that as a part and parcel of life. Staying faithful and committed to each other is a much more important aspect compare to the rest. During these trimesters, she devoted most of her time by dealing with her little champ's tantrums and being there for him. This time she felt it was a girl but she left it to God to decide since He is the one who knows what is best.  At last, it was a boy. It was double the joy since she was happy her little champ got someone to play and fight with. However, an unexpected twist awaited her.

Her little champ was growing to be a mischievous and naughty boy till she was losing control of him. Usually, she will find reasons to not be the bad mom but she was left with no choice. She just had to use the cane to discipline him and ensure his not out of the line. One side she had to care for her second one while on the other side she had to closely watch on her little champ. Sometimes when her worries get along her way, it just disappears when she hears her kid’s laughter; the best medicine which keeps her going. When her little champ was 15, her husband retired from the army and she was relieved that at last he will be able to spend time with the kids but she was not ready for what was coming next.

Unexpectedly the motive of bringing the family to a much more comfortable zone was uprooted all at once by her husband. She knew he made a mistake and her anger rose. Two souls were depending on them and she was very much disappointed with his irresponsibility. They had to find a way. Thus, she planned to retire her all time housewife job and enter the workforce. Her plan failed since after some time her husband fell ill and she had to care for him. She didn’t let the problem to consume her and neglect her job as a mother nor a wife. Her little champ went to work at the age of 15. She didn’t expect that but she had to give in since at that time there was no proper food on the table.

The little champ became very much independent while her little one became her little cuddly bear since most of the time he was the one accompanying her at home. Her little champ was still very reluctant to study but somehow successfully managed to finish high school. The tough part was ensuring he finished high school so she became the extremely strict mother and most of the time canned him till he quits repeating the mistake. She brought him up with many restrictions and when he was sitting at home she chased and nagged him to study. She knew that this will be very hard for her little champ but she knew one day when he is a successful person he will think back and be thankful.

Her cuddly bear went to high school when her little champ went to university. He moved far away and she knew she will be losing control of him but he made an extreme breakthrough in his university life till it was the talk of the town. The pain and difficulties she went through her life seem to dissipate and she thanked the Almighty for the perseverance she had. Now, she wished she was a little gentler to him rather than being extreme. Too late to turn back, but she makes it a daily routine to hear her little champ’s voice without missing a day. She finds time during her work hours. Yes, she joined the workforce 6 years ago when her husband regained his health back. She told her worries and struggles of the family to him and sometimes absent-mindedly never entertains his problems. It’s not because she doesn’t care but because now her little champ has turned to be her pillar of strength.

She holds so much of love for him but she sometimes finds it difficult to express. So, she starts to loosen up a little with her cuddly bear believing that he might not follow her little champ’s footstep but he will be someone whom the society looks up to one day. She shows that she cares for both of them equally and a little extra for her little champ in disguise. Being away from him is difficult because most of the time he is a lone ranger but she makes sure he will always be loved by the one woman who will never break his heart. A mother’s love will be the most precious and irreplaceable gift throughout his journey.  

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The story of the eyes [Part 2]

His eyes were the color of the sunset and had the tenderness of a rose. At the same time, in a split of a second, it can resemble a fiery lion. The beauty of the lashes is accentuated when he closes his eyes and takes a deep breath and opens them back. The twinkle in his eyes is prevalent when he gives a thousand watt smile and at the same time, it also held pain which cannot be understood by any. He looks far into the green mountains and thinks of those crying in vain and secures his heart from winding further. The eyes held unseen tears and he quickly wipes it away by devoting the tears to his family.

His eyes will show determination when he needs to get a work done. He schedules a lunch or coffee with his acquaintance and will not end a meeting without a conclusion. The discussion may go on for hours or in a few minutes but the information will be transferred. If there isn’t a next meeting on the queue then by luck he might share his experiences and stories or else it would be a firm shake added with a goodbye. The bitterness of the coffee will be still lingering in his tongue but it will subside when his mind starts to examine the self-assignments which require a lot of thinking and processing to prevent from turning into a postponed success. To him, certain things have their own time phrase and if it doesn’t get completed then it’s not worth the hard work.

Besides that, his eyes will be on fire when he sees ruthless actions by people. Mother Nature is not an exceptional. He believes that humans and nature are interrelated and the best can be provided when there’s a self-less commitment. Jungles are being reduced in scale and in return, it affects humans and they claim that it isn’t their fault at times. What a cruel judgment. He might not be in the field which guides him to understand more about the existing biodiversity but he does know the part which needs to be played by every human being on earth to ensure a beautiful world that welcomes the next generation.

At times, his eyes will hold playfulness. There’s always an existence of a child within us but it’s just when time goes by we fail to hold on to it. We decline the sub-character and move on with the bigger and better us. Even though his life holds a lot of challenges and he has to carry himself at all times, there is a time he becomes a child. Good friends help him endure the trials with jokes and teasing each other till there are tears of laughter. When we are small, mom doesn’t let go of our hand and even till now she still holds us in her heart. As such, in his lone journey, he will need a company to talk every now and then and even if it doesn’t happen there’s always his high tech phone to conquer the distance.

His eyes will resemble his caring nature at the most inexpressive and surprising ways. He is a man with multi facades and at one point all will shut down resulting in an emotionless face. Let’s say it’s a breakdown point. Even if you cup his face and ask what is bothering him, there’ll be no answer but just a silent node. An agreement stating he has something in his mind but gradually he let’s go and focuses on the person sitting in front him. He laughs hard at their joke and willingly lets them choose the activity or menu of the day. Voluntarily comes forward to drop the person safely when the weather is non-conducive.  After a long phase of blue tick, he suddenly bombards his status about you which just makes you smile.

His eyes will show attentiveness when he is given a responsibility. He believes that attentiveness does not apply in a studying environment but also outside of class. When there’s attentiveness one will process the surrounding environment and from there each step can be planned.  The plan ensures a full utilization of the surrounding and also the people in it. So, he ventures his attentiveness into securing a lifelong friendship apart when being given a responsibility because once when it comes to an end his pillar of strength are the sole reason for the success. Everyone deserves to be appreciated.

In addition to it, his eyes will show disappointment when he is thrown into the crowd of people who degrade morality and brings the worst of him. He sits all alone on a nearby bench and cries his heart out. He also manages to quickly transform back into a normal man and walks without fear wiping off his last lone tear. He turns those disappointments into raindrops and when many are joined and pour heavily he believes that at the end there’ll be a rainbow because rain will not pour a lifetime and the rain will not be able to cast a spell on the sun from appearing. Everything happens for a reason and he grows stronger and adds more pages into his book of life.

His eyes hold worries of the future and the regret of the past. He thinks the pathway he walks now has taken away a little of his fun nature in the name of sacrifice. He doesn’t take it for granted instead upholds his true self without being pulled down. It’s not an easy job because even though a major part of the society appreciates his existence, the minorities are reluctant to accept him. Their dismissive ways do affect a little part of him but it makes him realize that no human are perfect. Perfection marks the imperfections proving that no human are flawless.

His eyes show his worship towards his duty and family. There’s a reason behind his presence in this world and he strongly believes that. Not many wishes to include their name in a history which keeps on repeating their story endlessly. While working towards his goals and visions he does not neglect his family. Mom’s call will be answered without delay and all her nagging and stories will be heard without even the slightest boredom. All respective family members will gain an equal amount of love and care and he will be always thankful for them. He is nothing without them and one of the best gifts of life will be his mom because she had her own way of bringing him up and with that, he is someone who is looked up by the society.

Lastly, his eyes show love when he stands in front of the mirror and looks at himself. There’s a woman whom God have decided and life is not going to be a fairytale with her. But it can be a memorable one when one put their heart to it and never turn their back on their other half. Everything happens at the right time. So, till that it’s never wrong to love oneself and self-groom to the best which portrays their positive spirit. He loves to try different styles of appearance which sometimes easily cause people to forget how he looks. Being unnoticed is sometimes good too since it gives way to other stars to be highlighted.

Look through people’s eyes and you will see many stories being unfold and realize they are a unique creation as you are. 😊

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The story of a lone ranger [Part 1]

He was an adventurer where he trotted along the streets with his school bag once the bell rang. He went straight to his home and filled his tummy with what was left on the table. Then he headed to the steel shop which ensured he got some pocket money. It was a minimal amount but he valued and thanked it. The times he flopped were higher compared to the pages he flipped but he went on with his dream of providing the best for his family. A huge responsibility at a young age and he didn’t budge to any alternate opportunities which promise a better future. He loved gaining experiences through the variety of jobs and that’s what he did. Enjoyed the challenges and friendship which came along with it and all of a sudden there was a twist in his story.

He gained entrance into an institution to continue his tertiary education. Sadly, he waved goodbye and stepped foot into a place where home was miles away. He found comfort in new friendships and also those which existed in his late teens. He acclimatized to the rules and regulations and accepted his new home. However, his typical style didn’t disappear and since he was fond of it he didn’t find the necessary to change. His freshman year ended in such a speed pace that he had to be ready to face the second year with the doubts of whether in reality he is prepared. He secured himself into something better and was working hard but then in came the reality of life. There were the backstabbers, betrayers and problem makers. He fell hard and was reluctant to get up but believed that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

He held his principles high and gradually reached the top. When he reached there, he didn’t have the heart to turn his back on those who were not there to catch him when he fell. He took his duty seriously and focused on providing the best for all. No one was different to his eyes because he respected all and he also noticed some who didn’t want to face him after they have deceived him earlier. He stepped forward and shook hands with them as a sign of humanity. He didn’t want others to suffer what he went through. Everything which comes upon our destiny has its pros and cons and that’s how he loses some important values such as his expressive nature. Every sacrifice comes with a price and he didn’t mind it at all.

Even though he shows his best smile in front, he worries that his behavior hurts others. The number of calls being missed and the messages being unread increased. Anger conquered many and gave him the title as an “arrogant man”. He knew if he bothered it he’ll be left out from his goals and motives. So he invited the false statements and continued his journey. He took each complaint as a blessing to move forward and proved that his actions speak louder than words. The pathway which chose him realized his strong and often put him to test. He was thrown with stones and sharp sticks but he didn’t backfire. He believed that he was chosen for a reason.  He searched for the purpose of his existence.

He found it and got to know that there’s no turning back. At times he has to be silent in the background to achieve something big. He has to turn off all his connections and think for the better of others. His selfless attribute will make the world a better place but is he ready or capable enough to embark the journey and never come back? Yes, he is. He boarded the train and is now on his way to reach his final destination. In order to reach the final destination, there’ll be many hurdles and the beauty will be revealed when he successfully turns the hurdles into a memory or story which then falls into his life history. It’ll take years and he's willing to stay determined and not deter by anything even by the slightest pessimism which blows a “NO” into his ears.

He is not a superman nor an ironman but a common man who doesn’t underestimate his capability, puts up with life’s trials and trusts that every drop of sweat pays off. The lone ranger continues his journey and keeps on inspiring others

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L.A.T.E.R (Let's ace together & equally remember)

Among the most common words in life is later. It is usually used to term laziness or ignorance but sometimes maybe it’s about delaying with the motive of treasuring time. LATER, can be defined beyond its normal terminology.

To me, later is a word which is close to my heart because there are many occasions where I have said later and heard my friends say so too. A busy schedule ensures a productive time at the same time reduces the leisure time where just a few minutes become measurable. To avoid hurting our love ones we say that we will chat or talk later but it turns up to be a much huger war when that later turns out to be a month or a few weeks later. 

I realized that connections are important but at the same time, it’s crucial to give priority to ourselves since dedication to oneself will bring more people closer in a good way. How does that happen? Well, when you stop sticking yourself to the small four walls you will gradually extend the wall like the “The Great Wall of China” where life gets more interesting. More challenges will fall into place testing our performance level and only giving way to the best than the rest. Performance based on our capability requires utmost patience and perseverance since this is a stage where different chemicals are being mixed and it must not explode when creating a new bond. Most importantly, it frequently reminds one that time is ticking “tick, tock, tick, tock”.

Moreover, it’s never fun to talk with our loved ones under pressure or a dilemma. The negative vibe will be transferred to the person on the other side of the line. It’s good to share the problems we face but sometimes we do need time for our own in order to recuperate. Not all will feel the need to share because some hold their pride intact by making sure the problem is solved first and then they tell it if only when it comes up unnoticed. Each person lives in their own terms and conditions and when we learn to respect it we will stick on each other’s mind always till there’s a proper Later.

My friend will rarely have the time to talk to me, whereby the words which can define my friend is “under construction”. If a building is under construction we won’t dare to enter since we believe it will be stronger when it’s complete. That is how my friend feels. My friend believes that one will feel stronger and the audacity to carry out responsibilities will be higher when the feeling of completeness is convincing enough. So, with my friend, I define L.A.T.E.R as (Let's ace together & equally remember). We would be talking for a few minutes and in the 7th minute the most famous word will be mentioned and I’ll automatically understand that it’s going to be a long time till the next 7th minute. But I know deep down we are going to ace it together and equally occupy a small portion of our minds amidst the busy life.

Thus, getting angry with the word later will only ruin the few golden minutes with the person we love. Pulling back the past promises is not going to help and it will also ruin each others day. So, let’s declare L.A.T.E.R as a caring way of saying “I’m finding a correct time.” instead of thinking it as an authoritative way.

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The beauty of sacrifices

All of us are entitled to sacrifice and there’s always a plus or loss when we look back at our sacrifices. The destiny we choose does not only determine our sacrifices but our entire life does with the twist and turns which we have to go through. Some are forced to accept those changes while some have to endure those to make up to people’s expectation. Nevertheless, it’s always a cycle which gets repeated.

Sacrifices ensure our goals are achieved. What is the point of being born into this world and not fulfilling your part as who you are right? The major problem here is sometimes we turn away not due to the fact of ignorance but unable to tolerate the fact of being transformed into a better version. I do agree that it’s always good to just be “YOU” but sometimes to people’s eyes; you won’t be matching their standards.

After a long time, I met my friend and had a good chat. So I did realize the changes in my friend when my friend started to walk the pathway which is not convenient in the way where many lifeless emotions stick up in the pathway. My friend admitted that small things are being less appreciated instantly, that means if the person is sitting in front there won’t be any thanks instead will be left wondering if the message or text sent suits my friend’s favor or no. Sometimes there’ll be an emotionless face when talking any genre of context. It’s not being dismissive but it’s just that there are multiple tabs open and they need to be focused on a 24/7 basis. If it is closed then it will for sure lead to destruction. Throw everything aside and have the person to yourself during the time spent they say since it’s ethical but for some, it’s kind of impossible.

But the best part of this type of people gets revealed when we zoom in and have a look. They have a large and generous heart which wishes to include all the people into their heart. They try their best to return back what society has given them and it’s not called payback but a duty as a Good Samaritan.  There’s a huge difference between payback and duty here. When there’s this payback context it’s about being in debt and once it’s over we move away but duty is an endless job which persists until the end for the better of others. Besides that, they have the most expressive features. Let them do the talking and all of the sudden send a message to cheer them up and just observe them. A priceless smile will appear and that’s more than enough to answer the question which keeps on popping in our head.

They are very caring people in nature. They might not be there all the time to ensure all goes well but they are the terrific well-wishers who consistently teaches one on independence.  They show their caringness through simple gestures and when you understand that they will not need huge words to describe what or how they feel. They will have huge dreams which sometimes make us feel it’s an impossible task or just a waste of time but for them, it’s a huge commitment. They see a brighter side of it in years to come when it is achieved and sometimes they feel down when people claim it’s ridiculous. Their inner optimism which burns will be put off but they still find a reason to make it burn like the torch in the dark tunnel and use it to guide them throughout their journey independently. If someone doesn’t hold them their torch they don’t make it an issue.

Through scarifies, people change to a “NEW” version but instead of looking at them differently let’s accept them as a unique one. Let’s appreciate their sacrifices and ensure their voice is heard. If the trouble is about understanding them, give them a chance to be who they are and at the same time let’s close the gates to criticism and open the gates to acceptance. Trust me; the world will be a beautiful place to live when each sacrifice is counted as a gift and added into the list of “SPECIAL TASK FORCE” and given sincere appreciation.

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