Mirror mirror on the wall, what do you have for us all?

The mirror can be said as a common item in every home and sometimes there are multiple mirrors in a home just to have a view of us right before we walk out of home or before making a special appearance in front of someone. The mirror reflects the image which comes in view and we satisfy ourselves by that image without realizing the image within that plays an important role and awaits to be expressed and by that the true color is seen. What is reflected by our inner self is what makes our name a glory to be called or remembered and a face that is worth a thousand words.

 

My friend told me once, that our behavior or attitude should be a mirror image of us. This is because when we do something with all our heart deep down we will wish for it to return as such. However, in today’s world, it’s mostly about individualism where if they are good enough then they are happy with it and the other’s well-being is rarely even taken into consideration. If something good happens to them they are happy that it happened to them but would not think of that happiness to radiate to everyone else out there by the same action or gesture. So, here the mirror would like to conclude the important lessons whenever we step in front it to check ourselves.

Firstly, as the great man, Confucius said: “Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.” In this world, when you widen your scope of view even the minute thing will be beautiful. Do not only wish to be complimented but also give a fair share of yours. Let it be a genuine one which comes from the heart. Changes can be seen gradually and the most significant one would be an increased level of gratitude and also viewing life from a brighter side. It’s an undeniable fact that every human has their own flaws but look at those imperfections as something valuable because it may turn out to be lessons or likelihood an opportunity for you to know the person better. A perfect thing gets less attracted compare to something with cracks here and there. When you are outside of your comfort zone, let your eyes and heart be the mirror and let it extend the things you see and explore.

 

Next, by the great man would be “Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart”. Here attitude and behavior are the key components. Always in human, our physical moves are faster than our intellect forgetting that once done or said it cannot be reversed. Thus, when you are going all out with your heart bring your mind as well since it can guide you with relevant and wise pieces of advice. Being a down to earth person is a wise step but always be alert and it’s crucial so that you won’t be pushed down to the earth till you can’t get up. It’s the law of nature whereby when you do even a little without expectation anywhere in return you will be blessed abundantly. So, always let your mind and heart reflect the true you.

Most importantly, just be yourself as the great man told, “I want you to be everything that’s you, deep at the center of your being.” Be something that you wished to, not enforce it on yourself just because you were told to do so. Everyone is unique in their own way with some highlighted part of errs that identifies them for who they are. Let your good thoughts and appreciation be shared along the way so that the good and positive vibes can be seen in all. Make a person feel good and let the smile be reflected throughout the day and I’m sure for that person it’ll be a pretty good start. Let the negative energy be subdued with persistent visualizing of your good reflective mood and put it to action.

“By three methods we may learn wisdom. First, by reflection, which is noblest. Second, by imitation which is easiest and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” , said Confucius. The noblest way of learning wisdom is through reflection and it is stated as the first step. So, let’s be the best version of ourselves not to be a peoples pleaser but to be satisfied with our own reflection and be a human that defines the true meaning of beauty.      

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The Silent Acknowledgement

Silence for a long time is always deafening. Seriously, who would agree for that especially when it’s wordless and your mind stands out for judgment. It is uncontrollable and in order to seek for answers we will be wondering and keep on doing that till a fight takes place saying we are not giving enough space or we just don’t understand each other and lastly we just call it off. What if that silent has a powerful meaning and if we just give it some time it will be explained and meanwhile let’s just mind our own business. Even though it seems kind of hurting, in reality, we just have to accept that and learn to deal with the situation patiently. 

Patience is something which is very hard to be converted into a word that gets included into our life dictionary. In this speedy world, we want immediate answers and solutions to our questions and problems. Back in the old days, connection revolved around letters and it takes ages for it to reach the person. Friendship and love were recruited through this waiting moments and it just got doubled during this period. Technology made its way into our life and made connection easier and at the same time faster where information can be transferred instantly. However, connections made silence disappear in the background but somehow I had the opportunity to learn it in the most unexpected way and at the same time, some valuable realizations hit me.

A person’s life may revolve at any time without any further notice making them leave unnoticed. The situation just traps a person and they will fail miserably to fulfill all angles when all they can do is concentrate on only one. As such, my friend and I had a very comfortable beginning where we secured our details through consistent conversations and it was quite fun to always have a company who is willing to spare some time just to have some small or pep talks. It was kind of a ritual where we shared our common likes, dislikes, opinions and everything we had in mind. There was always this trust when we just speak our minds but who knew very soon these memories are going to turn out to be things that sustain the long journey which both of us have to embark on. A distance was formed due to existing work, unavoidable duties, consistent rescheduling of assignments and it just made the bond go unnoticed.

My questions lead to a kind of a huge misunderstanding and that is where I realize actually the beginnings bloomed to sustain the journey which does not guarantee both our presence. It’s not that we have forgotten each other but there will be this silent acknowledgment. I might say a “HI” but only after three days, a HI will appear. I don’t find the necessary to question why instantly there wasn’t a reply because there’ll be a reason behind everything that happens in life and that’s what is applied here. Certain things are better left unanswered because when the correct time comes everything will be unfolded right in front of us. The likes in Facebook, the seen name in Whatsapp status seen list, the double blue tick in Whatsapp chat are the simple silent acknowledgments because if a person is not bothered about us even these things won’t matter to them anymore.

Some things are hard to share and there is always this ego which does not allow us to step down that easily. Causing a scratch on someone’s ego is something intolerable for anyone and mending it cannot be done easily. So, let the person grow as they wish and even though there’s a need to let them go with all due respect let it happen but keep in mind that there’ll always be the silent acknowledgment. The special thing about silent acknowledgment is that it counts every thought and somehow assures us that we exist in each other’s life because it’s sincere and rewinds the past memories making us smile whenever a grudge seems to form during the absence. Never underestimate their absence because they will be there at the right time and there’s no need to be doubtful about that part. 

These silent acknowledgments might not be something to celebrate but certainly, it is important to the heart which continuously strives for the better being of both individuals. So before saying “THE END” think twice and most importantly have faith.😇

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A Chance

We often wish we were given another chance. What would it be like to wake up to the same event every day making you regret every single day for letting it slip away? Yup, it’ll be horrible. However, in reality, we do not instantly pounce on an opportunity because there’ll equally be other factors that pull us back from grabbing it. An opportunity or chance can be defined as a door which is locked and now it requires you to find the hidden key or persuade the person to hand you the key or it can even be you are waiting for someone to open it for you. Opportunities or chances can be seen in different diagonals.

Well, firstly finding the hidden key and it’s never an easy job since it requires a whole lot of dedication and perseverance laced with patience. The best part is not many are really into finding the hidden key. No matter how serious or tough our exterior looks like it will somehow have this tender touch of a child's face which may only be prevalent to those who are close to us. So, the beginning is always about having fun and then slowly it hits in our mind that we have to get serious maybe by seeing others, parents nagging or maybe even self-realization. Always remember there’s never a shortcut in achieving success in life; you have to take multiple steps in order to grasp the most awaited moment in life.

My friend’s history might be something relatable to many people’s life. A playful child yet who knew by placing the foot in the higher institution that is the moment of a turning point in my friend’s life. Once we start to move away from home, we will start to find a company which will always be there for us. Some will be happily ever after while some a total disaster. Nevertheless, my friend’s view got changed when the opportunity to voice out an opinion was given and from there people nailed my friend has the next capable leader. Who knew from there every footstep were counted to bring a noticeable and relevant change for everyone to benefit from. From a single person, it changed to being a self-less person.

There was no persuasion but sincere wishes from all to step into what my friend believed is possible. Many voices stood behind as sole supporters in making the vision a reality when there were little diversions. It was a rough start and throughout the journey somehow the roughness was paved into a memorable road which holds many fond memories. It also holds memories which resulted in red eyes due to sleepless nights or some painful cries but all those were worthy when recalled. The pathway which my friend boarded also enabled my friend to widen the existing network and it came in handy when there was a need to organize or get things done.

Sometimes there were long queues to ensure everything goes as planned. It takes up most of the leisure time but when there are commitments and responsibilities everything has to be kept aside not with an aim to get a good name or to be titled as the ‘BEST’ but just to be a good example where the next in line will emulate. It’ll be a lifelong practice and it’s for a good purpose. So, it all began in a picturesque place and now it has turned out to be an endless journey and there is no withdrawal. At the very beginning, my friend did realize that it’s going to be an endless journey where sometimes self-necessities or desires has to be left behind. Yet, went with the motive to attain self-satisfaction through actions that may not seem the exact reflection as in mind but with some errors, it is corrected and it resulted in an improved performance when there was a next time.

My friend found the hidden key through own persuasion even though at first the key was lost. Then it was time to persuade many people to hand over the key to unlock the door. Gaining people’s trust is never an easy task and lastly, there will be a need to step down and wait for the person to open the door because by gaining access forcefully it is not going to lead to a successful or satisfying outcome. Thus, as such our life also revolves around opportunities from different diagonals. It’s our choice to grab it and utilize it thoroughly. Do not let regret find a place in your mind because it’ll keep on letting you lose the upcoming chances.

If you dropped one let it be for a good purpose and do not look back. Apart from focusing on obtaining a chance for yourself, also allow another individual to flourish. Giving another an opportunity can make a huge difference in their life because everyone equally wants life to be as they desire and by giving everyone equal opportunity they’ll be able to attain the purpose of their life. When as such occur then chances will no longer be seen as something to compete but as a blessing that will result in a most valuable gift, a SMILE.

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Love at first sight

Being lost in the moment is the best definition of love at first sight. I’m not against love or something and please do not get me wrong. Yes, I do agree there will be sparks when eyes meet but it does not ensure a strong base which sustains for an entire life. However, the purest form of love can be found through a bond that was formed way beyond our existence and it’s the most powerful one; mother’s love. No matter how our physical feature is she’ll never judge those qualities and still carry and cuddle us always picturing us as the little baby who lets out a small yawn and goes to sleep with a smile on the face. 

She’s the wonder woman in reality and while saving the house from disaster she flies to our rescue even before the emergency siren turns up. Her instinct is very strong and being afar does not mean she let the rope loose but actually, it just got tighter so that she always has our back. It’s always no fun being away from her because she is the only person who will have full authority on our behavior and actions. Just one glare is enough to shut us and when we move a little further those will become simple reminders turning us into the disciplined child whom everyone emulates. When she’s angry the trailers will be her soul penetrating glares, her sudden silence, and some noisy clutters of pots and pans in the kitchen while the main picture is something very much awaited. I think everyone would have gone through this phase and I believe it’s just her way of saying “action speaks louder than words”.

However, below the strict face is a face which blossoms once she hears our laughter. Somehow, some take a very long time to understand that and let fear govern the entire process of accepting mom as a best friend. It’s not as easy as it sounds and I agree with that but when you do so it’ll be the best feeling whereby it’ll be an end for the game hide and seek. She deserves to know what we are up to instead of getting worried and being informed by a third party. So, let’s quit the search party idea and just confess the truth because it might be a painful NO or a sneering “WHY YOU WENT AGAINST ME!” but it’ll always be for the best. Her advises and advanced knowledge on how to tackle life skilfully always comes in handy and always think twice before going aboard on a mission impossible.

Moreover, when we start to enter adulthood that’s when she will start to solely depend on us indirectly. Aging might not take a toll on her but the trust and believe she puts on her reverts to us where we will become the ears most of the time. Take pride in that because one day we will be like her depending on our children not to be the torch in a dark cave but just some friendly talk that assures that the bond is still strong. We will be eagerly waiting for the answer to our confusion and questions but she will insist on hearing her out first. So, let’s just be the gentleman/woman which she raised through sleepless nights and early mornings without an ounce of regret or tiresome. It’s time to put a smile on her face and give the peace she deserves. No more crying over spilt milk but time to make sure the split milk is turned into a worthy stain instead of bringing more misery.

However, apart from all that, there’ll never be the denial of us being a child in a small part of her heart. The same little fingers which she kissed will never change. She will hold it till her death bed and when distance tears apart she will keep the memory alive by taking a look at the cute mittens in the drawers. She has her own way of managing the past and present without shredding tears, yup truly she’s an iron lady that is defined by God beautifully. Success or victory comes with our parent's silent prayer and blessings especially a mother who devotes her time for her children by just letting the wall clock instruct her what to do and her internal clock does the countdown for the child to return home. She’s the best gift from God and there’s no need special time to express gratitude and it can be done like how she does by placing a kiss on your forehead whenever she thinks of giving one.

For those who are missing her absence, I salute you guys out there because I know how painful it would be to lose the warmth and the smiling face that awaits our return. But somehow we have to pull the forward gear and wipe the silent tear. The heart will be stabbed by a knife every time you recall the special days and disappointment will be clear. Yet don’t turn down the invitation from happiness because she lives in your happiness. Don’t let down the soul in heaven by crying but cherish the memories and live up to her sayings. Fulfill her wishes and throughout life’s journey, she’ll be there for you as your guardian angel in disguise.

So, to all the moms around the world and in heaven as well hopefully it’s not too late for a mother’s day wish and personally, thank you for bringing in wonderful souls and making the world a beautiful place to live. Lots of love. ❤❤

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Everyone is a teacher

Being a teacher is never an easy job. It requires a lot of dedication and a whole lot of patience to conquest the job wholeheartedly and bring the best out of each student. Apart from being a teacher, they also have other duties which require an equal amount of attention but at times they tend to lack in these and just focus so much on being a teacher. A tough exterior and some extreme scolding do not entirely analyze their interior because their heart is very soft in nature and we tend to be absent-minded about that.

However, school is not the only place where teachers exist because our entire life revolves around teachers who measure from big to small. Our first teacher in life would be our parents. The simple ABC and other relevant words all came with mom’s guidance. She thought us to read our first book and also taught us on how to carry out our daily activities. The most basic steps came from her and followed by our father who taught us bravery and never to bulge when challenges send us an invitation. Our first fall from our bicycle ride, our first fall as a result of taking the first footsteps in life they were there to catch us and wipe our tears away. It may also be the other way around but nevertheless, it was them who trained us to be ready to face the outside world.

Then, we get enrolled into a school and we slowly get upgraded in accordance to our age. In school, accredited teachers stood in front the class and endorse us in activities that instilled our mind and we learned new things. We gain the knowledge to survive in this world that is through reading and writing and we practice that through the huge load of homework till we are good enough. Multiple subjects are introduced with courtesy for students to find their real aptitude and realize their real alignment towards the future. School becomes a platform to put your knowledge to test by participation and by minor exposures which give you the courage to just be yourself. The school trains us to compete for the best in the outside world.

Apart from all above, the most significant lessons are from our peers and friends of course. They might not be qualified teachers, but they are the ones who are always with us and ready to entertain us with mistakes and advice. In each phase of life, we subsequently add friends to our already long friend list and each of them is unique in their own way. They will call it a day after committing a major mistake and we end up with them when they cry their heart out. When the time comes it might be vice versa as well. No matter what it turns out to be the lessons that we learn from each mistake seriously creates a huge impact in our life. It does not only turn out to be a memorable incident but it just turns us into a more matured version and makes us prepared to face the extreme problems and challenges that await outside our comfort zone.

When our mind is open to new things, then eventually we will give everyone an opportunity to be a teacher. Everyone will always have something to share with us as for how we are to the world. Our emotions will be played, judged, most importantly tested and all of these will be an endless journey because humans are always nomads where they acclimatize and learn new things when they embark on long journeys from time to time. We will never remain static and if we do we are not exploring enough since experiences always come handy for a better improvement or else we will be encapsulated by the thought that we are perfect. The reality is it’s always never enough.

Increase your connection and never forgot all those teachers who were involved directly and indirectly in life because if it’s not for them we won’t be here right now. So, let’s thank everyone who played a part in teaching what life is all about!

THANK YOU AND HAPPY TEACHER’S DAY!

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The lessons of the sea.

The wide sea always makes us wonder and feel intrigued about its serenity. It has the power to subdue the problems in our mind for a temporary moment and just engulf us in the cool breeze which gives us the inner calm that we require. At the same time, the sea can be dangerous too, where it has taken away innocent lives causing misery and fear in hearts of those who wish to take a dive in the sea. However, regardless of the level of risk or fun, the sea brings it will always stay close to our heart and it holds lessons which nurture us to become a better human.

There is a usual trend nowadays, which is writing names on the sand and clicking pictures of it on the beach. Some place footsteps together and get it recorded on their mobile device but at the end, all of it gets washed away. In life, it’s never easy to pave our footsteps in someone’s life or history. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication. To stay in someone’s heart there must not be a resignation letter and to be in history there must be a frequent installation of oneself. It’s easy to get acquainted with a person but after knowing their true color it takes a lot of effort to put up with them at all times or else the relationship will get washed away like the names and footsteps on the beach. There may be a thousand reasons to say time is not on your side, but even when 1 minute is on your side grab it and make a difference. On the other hand, history will always uphold your achievements and good deeds when there’s perseverance despite the countless falls that you undergo. Those falls will determine you whether you are going to get up and rewrite your name or just let the waves wash it away erasing your mere existence. The choice is yours.

From above, the sea looks like all ordinary water surfaces on earth but when we go deep down that is where we will realize the true beauty. The coral reefs, the different species of fishes define the sea’s ecosystem as one of a kind since not all sea ecosystems are the same. As such, a person’s exterior will not judge their true nature. We have to go beyond those angered eyes, scrunched nose and wide smile to discover what their heart holds. We humans often get influenced by the words which get passed around and also by the facial features which may send a different message than the intended one. Everyone is unique in their own way and their bad qualities will always be the result of their unintentional acts accompanied with people’s hurtful actions. When we learn to accept the person for whom they are then the beauty of the individual radiates holding upon their special stand on the surface of the earth. 

Besides that, the wide sea show cast us the vast opportunities enlaced with the hurdles that are always ready to put us to test. Those professionals, who swim continuously for a long distance, would have undergone extreme training before attempting it. This is because the calm sea can become wild with crashing waves. Sea is often mentioned in love scenarios (in Tamil). For example, I’ve swim across seven seas to reach you. This shows the level of patience and sincere love towards the one and only. A promise can be sealed by anyone but to keep it, it’s never an easy task. The promise made is fragile, whereby fights can easily cause a crack and it may multiply over time. The crack will always remain there but it can be glued with the happiness of the present or it can be tightly resealed with unconditional love. So, life is a long journey and when love knocks the door one should be ready to swim across the sea and go through those different emotions of waves in order to successfully claim the person as yours.

A sea will be in its best version when you think it as a teacher and it’ll be another ordinary disowned property when you neglect it with your selfish actions such as polluting it with rubbish. Preserving the seas is in our hands and the lessons should be passed down to the next generation. The feeling of just sitting by the sea can never be replaced with any other fun activities. We can get our thoughts straight and revert back to our original self with just some moments by the seaside and let’s be thankful for the life we have since it’s wide, have some unexpected waves and most importantly there’s never an ending. 

Let the sea always be our kind reminder to enjoy the endless journey!

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Biggest Challenge in Life: The Weak Point

There’ll never be a perfect human and even if it exists then it’ll be the end of the world. Seriously, think about perfect humans walking around and there’ll not even be the courtesy to greet since we will think that we are superior to the other. We will try to dominate the other person and live with the agony of being the best while the human race slowly gets swept off. Scary to think of it right? That’s why when the Almighty created human he added some flaws to define uniqueness and to always learn from each other. A complete human is when he or she learns to find the imperfections in each other and feel complacent about it especially when they learn to accept a person’s weak point.

The weak point is like the trigger button which causes one to express the deeply hidden emotion. It may be in the form of an outburst, anger, sudden silence and with a little mixture of actions at times. The trigger button will not get triggered without a reason and there will usually be a sensitive issue or phobia behind it. Its presence maybe since childhood or else some experiences made it appear in life later on. Even though some will easily disregard it, yet they don’t realize it’s the biggest challenge in life. Adapting and controlling our weak point is not as easy as ABC.

Humans undergo different phases in life such as studying phase, working phase, and there’ll be an interaction between humans in each phase. We will get acquainted with unknown people and they will become special to our heart and when they become our weak point in the name of love that is where it all begins. Even though it gives a wonderful feeling, it can also establish an equal amount of avoiding human contact and managing it requires a whole lot of self-discipline and self-control.

My friend here is a very responsible person and believes that the enlisted dreams and goals are achievable despite some people tagging it as something unreasonable. Knowing new people is my friend’s part and parcel of life and since life catches one by surprise my friend always keeps a reasonable distance between loved ones. Getting symbolic names due to the attitude is a normal thing for my friend. Yet, somehow I understood the reason behind the action. Our profound mind has the ability to divert and revert but it entirely depends on how we are dealing with it. Some are smart enough to balance work or responsibilities with relationships. However, most of us don’t and the day ends up as an unproductive day. In order to avoid that, and be on the safe side my friend quits being a deal breaker for a relationship instead deals with a number of things in the platter and ensures there’s no leftover. In reality, there will be very minimal phone calls and messages and it’s my friend’s way of applying self-control and discipline in life which tend to be judged wrongly by a majority group of people.

Life is a single journey and many of us favor a duo performance but only strong hearts will be ready to put up a solo performance. Maintaining a reasonable distance means, it does not mean we are putting up a barrier but it’s about being realistic and grabbing an opportunity which only knocks your door once.  The opportunity will bring you far but the willingness will be pulled down by your weak point. So, it’s not wrong to have a weak point since every human being will have one but don’t allow it to shatter your dreams and goals. Embrace your weak point in a good way and accept it that without it, you won’t be the complete person with imperfections which says that you are unique.

Remember do not use a person’s weak point to discriminate or use it against them as well!

P.S- I wrote this in my point of view and I hope it is an acceptable fact. My apologies for any mistakes or hurtful statements. Thank you. 

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