The gates to heaven will always be open when our hearts are.

No matter how many New Year come and go the death of our loved ones will always haunt us. Rather than every New Year, I would consider it as each day. Moving on is never easy for anyone and sometimes to overcome the pain it may take years. The hole in the heart can never be mended as well as be filled in by someone else. The shock of their loved one's demise is just too hard to accept and live in reality and there are to some who attempt suicide.

Well, losing a parent makes a child to struggle throughout their life. If they lose either one parent or both parents at a young age, they will never be able to recall any fond memories. It’s actually more pathetic than those who lose their parent at a considerably older age since they will be some fond memories still intact. I agree the level of the pain is intolerable at any degree. But I do have friends that lose their father when they were too small and their mother is the one person who ensures they don’t lose touch about their father. Well, fate has its own way of declaring things. I lose my father 3 years back, and until now his absence makes my eyes well. I do wish he would stay longer and we could have done many things together but unfortunately, we had to say our goodbyes. It was a huge battle but at least mom and I have come all this way holding each other’s hand with the belief that he will always watch us from Heaven.

When grandfather passed away, which was a few months after father passed away it was like the entire scene being replayed. But this time, there was the acceptance that death comes unannounced so cherish the present moments and may the past remain as wonderful memories. It was a year full of sorrow but I admired the optimism of the deceived companions which are my mother and grandmother. Their optimism outshine the rest and when I sat and talk that is where I got an important lesson.

“Miss them but do not deprive your happiness because when you’re happy your heart will be open to new things and with that you can always feel their presence.”

One of my favorite sentence from the book "Me Before You" by Jojo Moyes
(P.S- It might not be suitable for all situations but in my opinion it is still acceptable for certain.)

It’s not about me here, but it’s about every soul out there who has lost their loved ones. I know how it feels and nothing can be done to compensate the pain. But do know that when you are happy they will too.When you explore new things or achieve something they will be smiling at you from heaven. Find happiness in the smallest things. Watching TV or having dinner together with family can be considered as one or any other traditions which you do as a whole continue doing it. It’s a way of appreciating their presence. Every step you take in life, they will be there to guide you. Maybe not by standing right beside you but someone else might lend a hand and this might remind you of them. Live the life which you always wanted because the ones you love for sure want the best for you even though they are not around.

Open your heart to life’s wonders gradually. Eventually, you will see the beauty of it and know that your heart will always be the transit for you and love ones to meet because each heartbeat is for them; they know it. You will feel their presence virtually. Each person has their own story and also each has their own time frame to grieve. But I do hope I enlighten you a little on never giving up in life. Question the unfairness, but do not dwell on it. Cherish the bond FOREVER.

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