Change of the heart

It’s common to read in books or hear people say  "bring your brain along with your heart" since the heart only prioritizes the on-going situation while the brain analyses for the future securing us from back falls. But how many of us have really followed this and sometimes without us knowing we ignore it because the people involved matters more. Though the good thing about the unexpected incidents would be it’ll bring a change to the heart in a good way regardless of a temporary or permanent change.

There’s never a thing which stays put in life and it’s sometimes hard to accept the fact. Well, I faced my fair share of people who underwent a drastic change and let’s be honest it sometimes hurts but that’s the fact. Changes happen since we are not in control of what happened to them and only that person would know the reason behind the change. Moreover, the "Truth" is not something that can be easily discussed and it certainly tires us to keep on wondering what is happening but you know just give some time. Time surely will make up to you and give you the answers to all your questions that keep on popping whenever the person comes to your mind. Change is never anticipated rather it’s a bargain to continue life and the phase seriously alters life in an unexpected way.

It’s also a normal human instinct where we start to create stories or imagine things that don’t exist when the truth doesn’t get revealed. It’s hard to process the fact that the change of heart comes with a package that includes time and again trust the process and let time explain everything. So, don’t be judgemental about a person based on their exterior since what the person shows might not be all same on the inside. Anyone can fake an appearance but not a heart. You can never toy with the heart and besides the eyes sometimes does the major talking. Get to know the person before taking into account the rumors which spread and convince yourself that each story has its own standing point and it does not necessarily have to fit your opinion. It varies and that difference should be accepted.

Besides that, the change of the heart trains us to adapt to the circumstances which just comes with a reason but without a warning. Life throws surprises and twists in the most unbelievable way. In the past they were your friends, now both of you are strangers. It was just yesterday your father was talking about bringing you fishing but the next day he passes away. Coping up with this kind of situations is a real challenge and these downers have a way to reach our heart all the time as reminders and make us miserable. So, how do we overcome it? Of course, by being strong and by harvesting all the hidden courage which is locked deep down and bring it to action. Despite on losing hope on life, you will find a reason to hang on.

Other than that, certain disappointments and misunderstandings that result through the change of heart can be talked over. It’s actually much easier since things can be resolved faster though some might not consider that as their first option. Instead, they tend to strive on their own, putting up a brave face but deep down they would really need a shoulder to lean and a pair of ears which just listens without questioning. Compromise to that attitude for some time to gain their trust and then you can find the truth. So, it’s necessary to compromise but it’s not a must. There are times where you have to stand for yourself so that the truth gets revealed. Too much of compromise just leads to a bigger bubble being formed and it’ll definitely be hard to pop. Never exceed the limit.

Most importantly, accept the person for who they are because their true identity will be different but in order to see it you have to accept the change. That does not only show that you care about that person but you let them know you will be there during the tough times and nothing can alter the special place you hold for each other. This universe does not function in according to your likes and pleases every single person. This change can also be termed as metamorphosis. This is a well-known process and it is commonly regarded as the transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly after being weeks in a cocoon. We admire the beauty of the butterfly and do not recount on the caterpillar. As such continue admiring the beauty of that person and appreciate them for who they are since there’s only ONE.

Lastly, if it’s meant to happen it will even though we don’t want it to and vice versa. So never kill the essence of life into something crueler just because the change of heart pushes you to the edge. People now days ignore an individual’s feelings and take it for granted. Connections with worthy people are important as much as your goals and ambitions are. The world will be a better place with peace and harmony when you keep up with the changes and be neutral about it.

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