All of us are just normal humans and it’s a fact though how many of us have managed to process it? In this society, those who have a high profile are considered as the ultimate or in short “Superman” or “Superwoman”. We claim that their financial stability, background or even luck make them reach the stars. But have we ever wonder that deep down they too are a common man who would love to go on a short escapade from their busy schedule as a reward for working hard like all the normal people out there where in short, they are leading a normal life like others too. However, our brain refuses to accept the fact.
It’s actually interesting to have a talk with this kind of people who always hold on a tight schedule. Just a cup of coffee accompanied by small talks is more than enough to have a slight clue about them. Well, I had a friend who is now in a very good job and at the present moment miserably fails to be a normal human. It’s actually good to see my friend taking charge as the eldest in the family and never bows out from the responsibilities. When there’s a phone, there comes self-definition in the name of “selfie”. The picture speaks about the commitment and contribution of my friend but I doubt whether the picture really holds the ever-lasting smile. “Don’t try to understand me”, my friend claims and I question “You’re not an alien from another planet right?”.
One thing I learned from my friend is sometimes we really put up a brave face and believe that we can solve everything. It’s very brave of us and it’s good to be independent but some things are not wrong to be shared with the one closest to us. Sharing certain things eases the burden and we will fill better. Approach a reliable person and the list may start with your sister, parents or even best friend. These people exist in our life to help us and it’s not wrong to approach with the need to find a solution. Being preoccupied with thoughts for 24/7 might not be easy but it will be easy when there’s someone to talk to. Fearing of backstabbers? I would too but there’s still the best option called parents. They scold us with so much of love in their heart that sometimes even though their actions don’t speak as such their heart will definitely beat for you. So, remember that we are not superhuman to handle everything.
Next, happiness is never easily achieved. Seeing someone smile for a reason makes us envy them wishing that the very smile is plastered on our face all the time even though we know that it’s too much to ask. At one point of life, there was a turning point and my friend tried to get enlighten in the middle of the road. I tried approaching as a moral support but even that was turned down. Yup, you can say that my friend’s middle name is adamant and to me, it was too much to deal on the plate yet at the same time I admired the comeback process. My friend will say that “We can only talk to a person about it, but the solution is from us”. We are the decision makers and sometimes having too many listeners will just confuse us, true enough. So, there was a long period of confinement till my friend achieved the target. Even then, my friend said there’s something missing. Thus, don’t be too hard on yourself and eventually the happiness within will bloom.
Besides that, defeat will taste horrible but it’ll be a mutual feeling when it’s shared. Who would prefer failure over success? Of course, no one wants to since who will recognize a loser we will think. Though failure is a good teacher it surely makes us scream to the entire world “WHY ME!”, Don’t give up just yet and at the same time, it’s not wrong to ask help. During this kind of situation, there’s this common scenario as well where turning the one close to us as a punching bag or just avoid that person to prevent further damage. Silence and noise are both dangerous when it goes above the breaking point. Thus, balance both and you’ll result in a mutual feeling of defeat. Appreciate the beauty around you even though your heart insists on shutting away everything and anything that comes your way as a form of blessing.
Hard work does pay off but remember that a kid lives in you. It’s perfectly fine to work damn hard because how would we secure a living then but don’t let yourself to be turned into a robot and claim that you have lost touch with people. The root cause will be blame; we always feel comfortable when we are able to deny a mistake from our side. Apologies scurry away from the brain with “If’s” and ego of course. The truth is bitter at times but it’s better than sugar-coated lies. Make an effort for those who played a role in your life regardless major or minor and try not to come up with excuses. Little things matter the most such as a short “hi” or a 5-minute talk over the phone and so on. Start with the small things and you will definitely enjoy the changes. Don’t ever neglect that little kid in you as well who just wishes to have a break and hit the dance floor. It’s ok to be a kid at times, suppressing it will eventually lead to depression.
Apart from that, make mistakes but never let ego to stop you from apologizing. As mentioned above, it’s a serious issue. There’s no need to say a sorry all the time but make sure when a situation requires one you’re ready to say it. Some take it easy and forget about it but the other party might feel hurt and would start to hold on a wrong perception about you even though that person just plays a small role in your life. That’s why the existing form of relationships just drift away but it can be saved with just one word. There are certain times we would feel that the person will understand us because the closeness indicates as such but it’s not like that. If it’s wrong it is wrong and remembers that karma surely knows its way to serve for your doings. I’m not trying to intimidate here, but it’s more of a reminder and stating the reality so there’s no need for the existence of guilt or regret later.
Each person is unique and they should be that way because it defines them but when that person starts to only focus on the best side disregarding the sides that can be improved then there will not be a fulfillment. Feel content about each step in life even if it’s just a small step. Moreover, let there be no regrets and make sure that every opportunity is used wisely and every situation is analyzed precisely to avoid paying for a mistake lifelong. It’s never too late to amend things and make it better.
P.S- Please do not mistake me for condemning a person. I’m just sharing in the form of lessons so that the mistake does not occur in another person’s life and there will not be any regrets. Hope all the good things will be accepted with hope towards a great 2018 and of course special thanks to my friend for the lessons.
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